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**Author:** [@brandon.mallett](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/u/brandon.mallett)\ **Replies:** 2\ **Last updated:** [25 May 2023 08:52 UTC](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/this-is-a-test-please-ignore/123245 "2023-05-25T08:52:42Z")
This is a test please ignore --- ## [How to report a post](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/how-to-report-a-post/123235)
**Author:** [@bowlingbun](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/u/bowlingbun)\ **Replies:** 2\ **Last updated:** [27 March 2023 11:36 UTC](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/how-to-report-a-post/123235 "2023-03-27T11:36:32Z")
On the old forum there was an exclamation mark for each post. If anyone was concerned about anything, clicking on the mark would open up a new correspondence box. Is something similar available on the new forum? --- ## [Acting on someone's behalf](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/acting-on-someones-behalf/123238)
**Author:** [@CUK\_Membership\_Team](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/u/CUK_Membership_Team)\ **Replies:** 0\ **Last updated:** [27 March 2023 11:30 UTC](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/acting-on-someones-behalf/123238 "2023-03-27T11:30:10Z")
If you need to consider making decisions on behalf of someone you care for, there is some useful guidance here exploring different options. Different ways of managing someone’s affairs | Carers UK Does anyone have any t… --- ## [Mum is at risk windows have been smashed by her abuser](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/mum-is-at-risk-windows-have-been-smashed-by-her-abuser/123234)
**Author:** [@Coolcar98](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/u/Coolcar98)\ **Replies:** 7\ **Last updated:** [27 March 2023 09:32 UTC](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/mum-is-at-risk-windows-have-been-smashed-by-her-abuser/123234 "2023-03-27T09:32:21Z")
Hi. I am scared not long after my last post I have received a message from my mum. Her windows have been smashed, all three of the front ones. I had to get there as quick as I could. The police have said they are busy t… --- ## [Just feeling so lost](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/just-feeling-so-lost/123207)
**Author:** [@Coolcar98](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/u/Coolcar98)\ **Replies:** 26\ **Last updated:** [27 March 2023 06:41 UTC](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/just-feeling-so-lost/123207 "2023-03-27T06:41:42Z")
Hi, sorry it is me again. I’m now just feeling so overwhelmed about my caring situation. I am sick of worrying about things. I have sent an email to social services about mums care about the fact they are failing to me… --- ## [One's well-being being sacrificed](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/ones-well-being-being-sacrificed/123209)
**Author:** [@Zulekha\_2209](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/u/Zulekha_2209)\ **Replies:** 8\ **Last updated:** [26 March 2023 21:44 UTC](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/ones-well-being-being-sacrificed/123209 "2023-03-26T21:44:41Z")
I wrote this reflection today and in response to the Carers Allowance Benefit which wasn’t mentioned in the Spring Budget. Does the reflection sound familiar to any of you? “Why do anything in the community if I can’t c… --- ## [New Carers UK report – Unpaid carers: preventing malnutrition and supporting positive nutrition](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/new-carers-uk-report-unpaid-carers-preventing-malnutrition-and-supporting-positive-nutrition/123226)
**Author:** [@CUK\_Membership\_Team](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/u/CUK_Membership_Team)\ **Replies:** 3\ **Last updated:** [26 March 2023 13:02 UTC](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/new-carers-uk-report-unpaid-carers-preventing-malnutrition-and-supporting-positive-nutrition/123226 "2023-03-26T13:02:05Z")
Carers UK has released a new report with the support of Nutricia that will provide new insight on unpaid carers’ views and priorities when caring for relatives and friends who are underweight or overweight. Diet, nutrit… --- ## [My caring situation - doing it all alone](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/my-caring-situation-doing-it-all-alone/122942)
**Author:** [@LordJeromiah](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/u/LordJeromiah)\ **Replies:** 30\ **Last updated:** [26 March 2023 09:00 UTC](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/my-caring-situation-doing-it-all-alone/122942 "2023-03-26T09:00:56Z")
Hello everyone, I posted most about my caring situation in “new to the forums” section and I’ve decided to extend it here and tell my story and any new developments. So a brief history (probably will be not so brief bu… --- ## [Just don't know what to do anymore, I feel like all the services are useless](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/just-dont-know-what-to-do-anymore-i-feel-like-all-the-services-are-useless/123191)
**Author:** [@Coolcar98](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/u/Coolcar98)\ **Replies:** 25\ **Last updated:** [26 March 2023 08:45 UTC](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/just-dont-know-what-to-do-anymore-i-feel-like-all-the-services-are-useless/123191 "2023-03-26T08:45:18Z")
Hi, so it is me again. I haven’t really posted in a few days, but I am at a loss for what to do with services really. I know it is a bold statement, but I feel like they are all inept, well most of them. I am just fed u… --- ## [Carer's Assessment - Experiences](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/carers-assessment-experiences/122987)
**Author:** [@Chris\_22081](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/u/Chris_22081)\ **Replies:** 76\ **Last updated:** [25 March 2023 11:59 UTC](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/carers-assessment-experiences/122987 "2023-03-25T11:59:06Z")
After eight months of waiting I have just had a Carer’s Assessment! Has anyone else gone through this, and what do you think of it? Mind was done by South Gloucestershire Council funded Carer’s Support Centre. I reciv… --- ## [Incontinence Pad allowance](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/incontinence-pad-allowance/123215)
**Author:** [@Linda\_1503](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/u/Linda_1503)\ **Replies:** 17\ **Last updated:** [25 March 2023 11:58 UTC](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/incontinence-pad-allowance/123215 "2023-03-25T11:58:54Z")
Hi - just a question really. Mums supplied with incontinence pads via the incontinence service. I have worked out that we get an allowance of 3 that have to last her all day and night. Based on her being bed bound and a … --- ## [Long-time lurker says Hi!](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/long-time-lurker-says-hi/123222)
**Author:** [@Orange](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/u/Orange)\ **Replies:** 8\ **Last updated:** [24 March 2023 11:14 UTC](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/long-time-lurker-says-hi/123222 "2023-03-24T11:14:38Z")
Hello all, I registered over a year ago. Today I finally summoned up the motivation to make my first post. I am looking after my 80 year old mum. She suffers from COPD and is now pretty limited in her activities. This … --- ## [Worried about husband](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/worried-about-husband/123104)
**Author:** [@Janet\_1601](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/u/Janet_1601)\ **Replies:** 31\ **Last updated:** [24 March 2023 10:14 UTC](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/worried-about-husband/123104 "2023-03-24T10:14:31Z")
My husband is autistic and also has generalised anxiety disorder. Just before Christmas, he had a mini-stroke (TIA) and had to spend a week in hospital. He also contracted Covid in hospital, although he was relatively … --- ## [I'm really struggling](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/im-really-struggling/70097)
**Author:** [@Alex\_220512](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/u/Alex_220512)\ **Replies:** 11\ **Last updated:** [24 March 2023 06:27 UTC](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/im-really-struggling/70097 "2023-03-24T06:27:10Z")
Hello, I only just found out about this forum this morning while doing a Google search, I wish I’d known there was a specialised forum like this earlier! Whether anyone can help or not, I really just want to get some stu… --- ## [Do I tell mil with dementia bad news?](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/do-i-tell-mil-with-dementia-bad-news/123196)
**Author:** [@Judy\_1705](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/u/Judy_1705)\ **Replies:** 10\ **Last updated:** [23 March 2023 23:09 UTC](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/do-i-tell-mil-with-dementia-bad-news/123196 "2023-03-23T23:09:02Z")
Hi all. Mil (93) is in a care home, physically fit but her brain was wiped by a major stroke a year ago. She was regaining mental function but now her existing dementia has overtaken her recovery and she is deteriorating… --- ## [Emotional blackmail](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/emotional-blackmail/123186)
**Author:** [@michelle\_2211](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/u/michelle_2211)\ **Replies:** 4\ **Last updated:** [23 March 2023 09:37 UTC](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/emotional-blackmail/123186 "2023-03-23T09:37:40Z")
Hi all I’m new here and primary carer for my mum, although she is manage most things at the moment, I am finding that she uses emotional blackmail at times which I find difficult to handle. any advice please --- ## [What is an action plan?](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/what-is-an-action-plan/123220)
**Author:** [@Coolcar98](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/u/Coolcar98)\ **Replies:** 3\ **Last updated:** [21 March 2023 21:13 UTC](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/what-is-an-action-plan/123220 "2023-03-21T21:13:29Z")
Hi, everyone, sorry for another post, I Just wanted to ask a quick question. I have had a response from the safeguarding team after I sent a letter to them last week. The woman on the phone told me that an action plan wa… --- ## [Can't Manage Anymore, Chances of Care Home?](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/cant-manage-anymore-chances-of-care-home/123134)
**Author:** [@Nykti](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/u/Nykti)\ **Replies:** 11\ **Last updated:** [22 March 2023 11:58 UTC](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/cant-manage-anymore-chances-of-care-home/123134 "2023-03-22T11:58:42Z")
Sorry, this is probably going to be a bit disjointed and rambling. It’s generally been a crap six months, but the last two weeks are really pushing me. Having to handle my mum’s physical and emotional needs along with m… --- ## [Overwhelmed by the situation with my mum](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/overwhelmed-by-the-situation-with-my-mum/68704)
**Author:** [@Overwhelmed](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/u/Overwhelmed)\ **Replies:** 2\ **Last updated:** [22 March 2023 11:28 UTC](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/overwhelmed-by-the-situation-with-my-mum/68704 "2023-03-22T11:28:17Z")
Sorry if this isn’t all focussed on my health issues but my issues are all entangled with the whole situation. My son was born thirty years ago with birth defects and then diagnosed with a progressive genetic disorder a… --- ## [My Caring Dilemma](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/my-caring-dilemma/65776)
**Author:** [@ontheverge](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/u/ontheverge)\ **Replies:** 197\ **Last updated:** [21 March 2023 13:32 UTC](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/my-caring-dilemma/65776 "2023-03-21T13:32:32Z")
Hi all, I’m a 37 year old male from Yorkshire who just wanted to post on here and let it all out because sometimes it gets too much for me. I’ve been feeling really down for a long time now. I did post on here not too… --- ## [What help is available for a carer](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/what-help-is-available-for-a-carer/70686)
**Author:** [@Coolcar98](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/u/Coolcar98)\ **Replies:** 31\ **Last updated:** [21 March 2023 12:44 UTC](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/what-help-is-available-for-a-carer/70686 "2023-03-21T12:44:47Z")
Hi, so I am just writing on here about a specific need I have. I have been living with my partner at his parents home for the last six months. His parents have decided they want to downsize their property and that means… --- ## [Taking a break options](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/taking-a-break-options/123219)
**Author:** [@CUK\_Membership\_Team](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/u/CUK_Membership_Team)\ **Replies:** 1\ **Last updated:** [20 March 2023 21:37 UTC](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/taking-a-break-options/123219 "2023-03-20T21:37:28Z")
There are a few options for taking a break when you have caring responsibilities outlined here: Taking a break | Carers UK the factsheet also lists organisations that can offer specialist services. Can anyone recommend… --- ## [I am struggling to care](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/i-am-struggling-to-care/70532)
**Author:** [@Zulekha\_2209](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/u/Zulekha_2209)\ **Replies:** 22\ **Last updated:** [20 March 2023 17:20 UTC](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/i-am-struggling-to-care/70532 "2023-03-20T17:20:29Z")
I am really struggling. I have had an unhealthy relationship when I moved in with my grandma. Boundaries have been really difficult to maintain and I am constantly reiterating them or on the alert because she will “hint”… --- ## [Had enough of mums mental health behaviour](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/had-enough-of-mums-mental-health-behaviour/123216)
**Author:** [@Coolcar98](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/u/Coolcar98)\ **Replies:** 0\ **Last updated:** [20 March 2023 10:17 UTC](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/had-enough-of-mums-mental-health-behaviour/123216 "2023-03-20T10:17:31Z")
Hi, this morning I woke to another panic attack. Mum called me again last night in a state saying she wanted to harm herself and that she has had enough of this guy. She was going to far, I told her to speak to a doctor,… --- ## [How life can change in a year](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/how-life-can-change-in-a-year/62648)
**Author:** [@Henrietta](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/u/Henrietta)\ **Replies:** 20\ **Last updated:** [19 March 2023 11:46 UTC](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/how-life-can-change-in-a-year/62648 "2023-03-19T11:46:19Z")
12 months ago I was caring 24 /7 getting no sleep and stressing over the prospect that Dad may need residential care and all the financial implications of being under 60 living in Dad’s house. I thought I would post an u… --- ## [Dealing with death and everything afterwards](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/dealing-with-death-and-everything-afterwards/69994)
**Author:** [@Tom\_2204](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/u/Tom_2204)\ **Replies:** 9\ **Last updated:** [18 March 2023 23:01 UTC](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/dealing-with-death-and-everything-afterwards/69994 "2023-03-18T23:01:32Z")
Last week I lost my best friend, he died in hospital due to pneumonia. I am now at a loss with myself and grieving. Tomorrow I have a Universal Credit interview to renew my commitments but I don’t feel ready to go back t… --- ## [Abuse continues, loss for what to do](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/abuse-continues-loss-for-what-to-do/123192)
**Author:** [@Coolcar98](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/u/Coolcar98)\ **Replies:** 9\ **Last updated:** [18 March 2023 20:12 UTC](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/abuse-continues-loss-for-what-to-do/123192 "2023-03-18T20:12:07Z")
Hi, once again I am writing about the abuse of my mum. Services are failing to act on a very serious case of abuse. It’s all just so messed up, I can’t believe that there is such a serious case of neglect all round. Ser… --- ## [Exhausted not sleeping greiving upset](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/exhausted-not-sleeping-greiving-upset/64471)
**Author:** [@Londonbound](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/u/Londonbound)\ **Replies:** 7\ **Last updated:** [18 March 2023 18:10 UTC](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/exhausted-not-sleeping-greiving-upset/64471 "2023-03-18T18:10:52Z")
My caree died a while ago, I was supplying night care at the end , my sleep was disrupted, tended to catch sleep while I could. My sleep seems to be worse, I am up until 5 or 6 in the morning just can’t sleep, finally g… --- ## [Petition Require public referendums on 15-minute town and city policies](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/petition-require-public-referendums-on-15-minute-town-and-city-policies/123204)
**Author:** [@butterfly68](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/u/butterfly68)\ **Replies:** 3\ **Last updated:** [18 March 2023 16:54 UTC](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/petition-require-public-referendums-on-15-minute-town-and-city-policies/123204 "2023-03-18T16:54:40Z")
Please support + share the following… Require public referendums on 15-minute town and city policies - Petitions --- ## [Protecting parents' savings](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/protecting-parents-savings/123203)
**Author:** [@Kevin\_2109](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/u/Kevin_2109)\ **Replies:** 3\ **Last updated:** [17 March 2023 12:47 UTC](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/protecting-parents-savings/123203 "2023-03-17T12:47:13Z")
Hi, this is my first post here. I am my father’s carer. He has recently gifted a relative a substantial amount (10 per cent of his savings). Is there anything I can do legally to intervene and limit how much he gives a… [Next page](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/latest.md?page=1)