# Grateful New member **URL:** \ **Category:** New to Carers Connect\ **Created:** [10 March 2022 20:51 UTC](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/grateful-new-member/69771 "2022-03-10T20:51:56Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 6\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Ula](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex017/user_avatar/carersukstaging.discourse.group/ula/32/367_2.png) [@Ula](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/u/Ula)\ **Post date:** [10 March 2022 20:51 UTC](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/grateful-new-member/69771/1 "2022-03-10T20:51:56Z")
Hello, I am new to the forum. I and my partner care for our adult daughter with schizophrenia. I have appreciated reading the posts, sometimes I feel devastated about how she is suffering and I am so sad. I no longer feel as lonely since joining this space, Thank you ---
**Author:** ![Penny](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/8baadc/32.png) [@Penny](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/u/Penny)\ **Post date:** [11 March 2022 10:25 UTC](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/grateful-new-member/69771/2 "2022-03-11T10:25:23Z")
Welcome Ula! ❤ It is very lonely at times isn’t it? I had a bad day last week and it all got too much for me and I had a good old cry. I don’t think any of us expect to still be caring for adult offspring. My daughter caused a lot of anguish this past week and even though I know she can’t really help it (she has LD and autism) there are days when I wish I didn’t have to bother with all this. Oh for some time with no worries! Then I am wracked with guilt for feeling like this because I know some carers have it a lot worse than me caring for people with profound disabilities who need 24/7 care. Are there any support groups locally for yourself and daughter? ---
**Author:** ![Melly1](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex017/user_avatar/carersukstaging.discourse.group/melly1/32/34_2.png) [@Melly1](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/u/Melly1)\ **Post date:** [11 March 2022 10:43 UTC](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/grateful-new-member/69771/3 "2022-03-11T10:43:44Z")
Hi Ula, welcome to the forum. Sending you cyber support. Does your daughter live with you? Melly1 ---
**Author:** ![Ula](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex017/user_avatar/carersukstaging.discourse.group/ula/32/367_2.png) [@Ula](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/u/Ula)\ **Post date:** [13 March 2022 21:17 UTC](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/grateful-new-member/69771/4 "2022-03-13T21:17:59Z")
Our daughter lives on her own but cannot really cope and does not want to live with us. We visit everyday and worry all the time. I feel scared for her. I am really hoping a change of medication will help. Yes like you say it can be beyond bearing the feelings of caring, it has been 8 years now. I got out for a walk today and that helped, the blossom just starting lifted my spirits. Warm wishes. ---
**Author:** ![Melly1](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex017/user_avatar/carersukstaging.discourse.group/melly1/32/34_2.png) [@Melly1](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/u/Melly1)\ **Post date:** [13 March 2022 21:58 UTC](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/grateful-new-member/69771/5 "2022-03-13T21:58:25Z")
Hi Ula, better that she has own place. Glad the walk helped, lovely to see signs of spring. Perhaps its something you can incorporate into your daily routine. A very wise person who used to post on here, used to say that looking after ourselves and modelling what a healthy life looked like (daily routines, enough sleep, exercise, eating properly, interests etc) was the best way to help someone with mental health issues. Melly1 ---
**Author:** ![Ula](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex017/user_avatar/carersukstaging.discourse.group/ula/32/367_2.png) [@Ula](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/u/Ula)\ **Post date:** [14 March 2022 22:07 UTC](https://carersukstaging.discourse.group/t/grateful-new-member/69771/6 "2022-03-14T22:07:48Z")
Wonderful to have self care made extra meaningful by thinking of it as setting an example. Wise; thankyou.